I just got it. It's awful. It's cry-all-the-way-home and then cry-more-in-the-shower and then cry-a-bit-more-in-the-mirror bad. It's just SO SHORT and took me SO LONG to grow this sad little bit of hair. I asked to still be able to put it back. Is that not the oldest request in the book? And if I try to pull ANYTHING back, it just slips through my fingers. Nothing there. And it's horrible.
So I'm shamelessly using you. Tell me stories that are worse, please? This is maybe 4-5 months worth of hair, and I am crying like a baby, so now I TOTALLY get why all the girls on ANTM cry when they cut off their 3 feet of hair. It HURTS.
STORIES, PEOPLE.
NOW!
I'm off to wade in self-pity, and maybe do a bit more ponytail-less weeping.
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Oh honey. I have so been there. I have to say the first time, it was my fault, and I was using a photo of freaking Cameron Diaz as my example, she looks great with this hair so I will too, right? Right? No. It was sad. And my sister was my hair stylist, and she's good, and she tried to talk me out of it and into my standard basic bob that I like and have had most of my life since age 17. But I wouldn't listen to her. I grew my hair long after that. But it took a long time.
I feel ya, because I have the biggest head ever and to be able to pull my hair into a ponytail it has to be shoulder-length. I asked for long layers one time and it was cut above my ears. Even worse, I was in college and couldn't afford haircuts so it grew out like a sheepdog's ears. Or there was the hairstylist who insulted me for the few years (YEARS) I stayed with her, and had to look up haircuts in the book - she was only good 50% of the time, but that felt good enough.
Thankfully it's hair, and it'll grow. Or you can bring wigs into fashion, which I think is long overdue.
ohhh don't be sad! short hair makes sexy women!! really!!
I has a bad experience with hair many times (since I was a child and just I used the scissors by my self) and always I was feeling bad and all people says the opposite, just dry those tears and put a little gloss and brush on you...
you are so beautiful and the long of your hair can't hide it!!
ummm, one time I was on a road trip with no AC so the windows were down full time. I was sick of my hair blowing around, and so... I cut it all off looking in the rear view mirror, using a pocket knife. That was...pretty bad.
Lets rewind the tape of life to sometime in the late eighties, maybe early nineties, when Bon Jovi was really cool. Wait, were they ever really cool? Anyway, I wanted rock star hair. I HAD to have a perm. I begged. I pleaded. My Mom agreed to it, but it would be a home perm. {you see it coming don't you} Well at the time I was growing out my bangs so I had a lot of hair that just went past my eyes and the rest of my hair was one length and long....and apparently my hair takes a perm well. Hmm...so just imagine a curly bowl of hair on top of a curly bowl of hair. So so bad.
Moral of my story? Be thankful it's not a bad hair cut in 1989. =)
Rock a hat for a while - it'll be okay!
i have a story for ya-
i have naturally curly hair that takes forever to grow out, so i feel your pain sistah!
i went to a friend's recommended stylist for a 'new' look. i asked for something easy to style and not lose my length, keeping my curls in mind-
i came home missing 4! inches and layers L.A.Y.E.R.S.!!! i cried for a week...when i washed my hair i had a stair step silhouette...to this day i've not let anyone near my hair with scissors.
i am sorry...
Oh my - I'm so sorry. I do have a story for you.
I lived in New Mexico when I went to college and went in to get a trim. Layers were just coming in and I asked her to do some long layers in my bobbed haircut.
She didn't know how to do layers, but didn't inform me. Instead she - SERIOUSLY - walked circles around me clipping as she went. I seriously had RINGS snipped into my hair.
By the time she was done - the top of my head had hair only 2 inches long and there was NOTHING below my ears.
It was Halloween and I will never forget because instead of getting dressed up for a friends party, I spent the night crying.
It's awful. I'm so sorry!!
Oh no!!
I've gone from below my shoulders long to super short a few times, each time of my own volition. Each time I didn't choose my stylist very carefully, and each time I wanted to cry after it was done. (Learn from mistakes? who, me?)
The first (and most notable) time I was in my early 20s, and I wasn't fully horrified by the cut yet and stepped out of the salon only to run into the guy I had a HUGE crush on. He thought I was my brother at first.
When he realized it was me he said "Oh. You cut your hair. Gotta go."
When I got home and REAAAAALLY looked at it, I totally did look like my brother and it wasn't a good look AT ALL.
I should have known that my haircut back in the 70's would be bad when I walked into the trailer...
just imagine...
big head
1/2 inch hair
glasses...
yea..sorry to make your stomache hurt..
Oh no Lauren! I don't have any bad hair cut stories. I just wanted to send along my condolences for your lost hair.
Slouchy knitted hats are still in. I saw some at Forever 21 on the Plaza. Maybe you can wear those for awhile ^.^
ugh, been there too many times to count. (right now I am in a permanent bad hair day phase)
My first experience though is I went short WAY too short and I was around 13-14 all the boys in my class and some of the upper classmen called me a boy and made me cry for days. But then my mom took me back to the salon and we dyed it red and magically it looked sassy and not so boyish. Plus that year I got my first real boyfriend/love. So it wasnt so bad after all. It will get better. Otherwise, see if you can see a different stylist (maybe one a friend swears by) and see what she can do to show you how to style it. Sometimes it just taking a little bit of styling and an eh haircut becomes a vavavoom haircut!
I have DEFINITELY been there. More than once. When I was little, I somehow ended up with a haircut so short that I looked like a boy for all of first grade. NOT GOOD.
I tried that adorable haircut that Amy Adams had in Julie and Julia last year. Completely forgetting that my hair has just enough wave to look stupid short, and straightening it makes it completely fried.
In both cases: it grew out. Fun makeup helps in the meantime.
1. I am a great believer of that fact that hair goes into shock when it's cut and looks and acts completely horrible for the first few days of a new cut. So don't freak out until Friday or so.
2. You are adorable with short hair!
3. I will totally knit you a slouchy hat, if you'd like.
4. I once had a Jennifer Aniston mullet in high school. It was horrible.
I think a lot of us have stories. I had just moved to a new town and we were going to have pictures taken for our Christmas card. I asked around town and found that one hair salon kept being mentioned a lot. I called for an appointment and got in that day. There was only one person there to cut hair. I told her what I wanted - which was shoulder length hair. She said, "No problem," and then proceeded to cut my hair as short as hers. We both had LDS missionary haircuts. I cried or rather bawled all the way home. When I walked in my (then, but now ex)husband asked my if that was the haircut I'd asked for. I said no and cried some more. Cried through the shower. Cried while I dried it and cried while I tried to make it look better and then bawled some more when I realized that our Christmas card would always be a awful reminder of that awful hair cut.
You're not alone ((hugs))
I'm so sorry you've had such a miserable experience, and I feel your pain. I had been growing my hair out for a year and made the mistake of trying out a new stylist. I don't get my hair cut that often because I'm on a budget. I asked her to "make it look cute". I did give her a few specifics which she blatantly ignored... sigh. She totally butchered my hair. This was a week ago. It wasn't tear worthy, but oh boy, was I pissed off. Actually, I'm still pissed off. I'm thinking about getting it cut shorter (I wanted to grow my hair out) just so that I don't have to keep this crappy hair cut. Fortunately, hair grows fast!
oh geez, that stinks. After one really terrific pixie haircut my brother proceeded to call me rat-head any time he looked at my hair. it was like a bad toupee.
It will grow, it will grow.... and it will look better. Unlike hideous home perms that were inflicted on us teenage girls, that sent us weeping into the wardrobe, and which only looked worse as they grew out.
Patience. And hats.
Bad haircuts and bad perms I've had them all... And it does grow back... This may put a smile on your face though. I went on a trip this summer with the kids. I got home and MY HUSBAND had shaved his head!!! The neighbors had called the police they thought someone was breaking into our house while I was gone!!He just said it was hot and he has to wear a hard hat all day sooooo.. I guess I am married to my worst haircut! Who knew he had so many scars on his head?
Hang in there -- it will grow out! I had the same thing happen to me about 6 years ago. An inexperienced stylist just kept cutting and cutting and soon it was all gone! It will grow back quicker than you think.
I am so sorry about your horrible hair cut, I remember those days, and I finally dedcided to stay with one hair stylist... thats the only way to do it. Infact today honestly I did get my hair cut and it turned out lovely, if that makes you at all feel that there is hope out there.
Oh, I feel your pain!
I was offered a free eyebrow waxing at my Mother's of Preschoolers meeting. I'd never had one before and probably won't again for a long time. I met my husband for lunch and he just stared at me for the longest time and asked....."What happened to you?" He couldn't figure out what was wrong but knew for sure something was!
I picture you looking wonderful in short hair. Perhaps get some styling tips from a different person salon?
Good luck!
So sad. Here's my story: One day I decided to cut my hair myself (dumb, I know) and I wanted a cute, short, flippy cut. So I thought I did a pretty good job and was planning to do it all cute before my hubs came home and saw it. Instead I fell asleep and it dried all ugly and when he came home he was so mad he wouldn't talk to me. Turns out he didn't like short hair (how was I to know that?). He actually didn't talk to me for 2 days he thought it was so bad. I actually didn't think it was that horrible, but he's always telling me, even now, 8 years later, how horrible that haircut was. Completely unlike him too, he had always said he liked every haircut before that. Hopefully your hubs loves yours and that will make it all better :)
My worst hair story was when I was 13 I went to spend time with my favorite aunt. Her next door neighbor, my aunt and I decided we would cut my hair, give me a home permanent and then we put summer blond on it and i went out in the sun. Three days later when I could finally wash my hair it felt funny kind of soapy as it washed away to a length of about 2 inches all over. My mom and dad had sent me off with a head of past shoulder length hair and when I returned I had a very short very damaged head of hair. The worst part was that it neither took the permanent nor lightened significantly. It still doesn't take a perm. Many hairstylists have tried and I spent a lot of money, but it just won't take a perm. One representative of a famous salon line of hair products wanted to show how good their new perm was and found out that it wouldn't work on my hair. Boy was his face red. I have many awful hair stories, until I realized that my hair style is straigt and cut however it falls. I have kept my sylist for 25 years so I don't have to retrain someone who knows they can fix some other way.
No photo for us? You know we all wouldn't think it's so bad. :)
I have naturally wavy hair and for some reason decided it wasn't curly ENOUGH. So I got a perm in eighth grade -- at the height of all my middle school awkwardness. I looked like a poodle. And we had tickets for a David Bowie concert and were actually able to MEET HIM. So my pictures with him are of awkward me with poodle hair and giant glasses. He seemed to single me out to put his arm around me for the photos. I think he felt sorry for me. It was bad.
Oh I can totally relate - this just happened to me 3 weeks ago. It was just perfect pony tail shoulder length, I asked for a bit more layering, a wee bit shorter so it would have a bit more body, and wanted to be able to keep it up in a clip/pony. I ended up the same as you...only I didn't cry, I've been holding in my anger and dislike. I just want it back again! So, no stories to tell you, but just comiserating with you...I so know how it feels. Post a pic though, I bet it most likely looks super. ;-)
I got a mullet just before leaving for the vacation I was convinced my boyfried was propose. As soon as he saw me he said, "You got a mullet?" I burst into tears. Five months later, after it had grown out, he did finally ask me to marry him (pretty sure the hair wasn't a factor...pretty sure at least).
Oh no!
When I was in college, I went have layers put in my shoulder-length hair. I don't know what the heck went wrong, but the stylist cut a HUGE chunk out of the back. Then didn't even try to fix it. She went all crazy with styling pomade and spent forever covering it up, but I didn't figure it out until I washed it that night. Everything else looked normal, there was just that crazy patch that was about 5 inches shorter than all the rest. I had to get a whole new, shorter haircut to repair it.
A friend of mine also went through a bad experience a few months ago. Her hair is corkscrew curly and takes years to grow out, but had been thinning in the past year due to some meds. So her stylist said she would make it look fuller, and cut it. From chin length to an inch long. All around. My friend has really used headbands and cute little clips up front to make it look stylish. Even though she hates it.
Looking at your blog photo, you have such cute features and I bet look absolutely gorgeous with the short hair. But I know it can be devastating to get a bad haircut :( Hang in there!
Oooooooo nooooooo's!! This one time, when I was 13, I wanted to get a "grown up" hair cut, and my mom always pestered me to get trendy hair cuts. I don't know why. She always said "I'm tired of staring at the same thing on your head" My mom is such a sweetheart. Anyway, we went to a salon I've never been to, and the hair dresser said "How about a wedge?? It would be so cute on you!" And my mom said "YEAH!!" I was still considering what my head would like like shaped as a SHOE when she started wedging my hair. As it turned out I have a very "low neckline" and they didn't want to shave it to make a true wedge... so it was a wedge with a miniature mullet on the back of it!!!!! What?!?!?! Anyway... I cried a lot, too. In fact, I didn't even make it in the care before the waterworks started. I cried IN THE CHAIR. Awkward!! I feel you. Thank God it'll grow!!
Not trying to get competitive, but I swear I have had the worst haircut of all time.
I went to a hair styling school and asked to go from blue-black to light brown. They said sure!
My hair MELTED from all the intense bleaching. I went from below the shoulder length hair to a very awkward pixie cut. Because my hair had melted off my head. It was goo.
So horrible.
But it grew out, and so will yours!
xo,
Michelle
Oh no! Short hair looks great with big earrings, and hat season is upon us. You can use it as an excuse to buy lots of cute accessories. Is that of any consolation whatsoever? It will grow - faster than you think.
I don't have any stories for you but PLEASE! You are the most adorable thing on planet Earth, I cannot imagine you could do anything do your hair to make yourself any less cute. Please!!! You are so darling. If you move to San Jose, I'll quilt with you and recommend my hair dresser. ;)
I have dead straight hair. I have lots of strands, but as it's dead straight it looks like my hair is on the thin side. My mother and sister though have been blessed with super thick and wavy hairs.
My mother always had an issue with my hair, wanting to make it more "lively" and more alike what she and my sister had. We tried it all with my hairdresser. Layers. Different colours. Highlights. Bangs. And of course; the perm.
I was 15 and the problem was my hair didn't take the perm properly. First time I had waves in a third of my hair and the rest was still dead straight. A couple of days later, we did another round. My hairdresser let me sit with the liquids and rolls longer than recommended and I ended up having half of my hair a bit wavy. And the rest still straight. And then I started losing an awful lot of hair due to the perm liquids and the stress of having two perms. And I looked awful for months...
Hi - I just found you via 'slow lane life'. My worst hair experience was some years ago ... I had asked my hairdresser for some pink streaks in my hair - she was a bit dubious and they turned out a bit pale. So next time she used a stronger colour ..... and they cam out neon pink - you could have seen me from the moon. BUT - I didn't have time to get them bleached out, as I was going to Houston to the Quilt Show .... I am sure they must still talk about the strange Scottish woman with pink hair!! Regards Anne
I so understand you! I was in your place about 3 months ago. I went to antother hair stylist and wanted my hair shorter...but still longer than my chin...well, it ended up being a mm longer than my ear lobes and I cried for about two weeks everytime I got to see my face in a mirror. Horrible. I looked like a 12-year-old and all the sudden I felt like one. Not very confident. Till I realized I wasn't 12 anymore...it got a bit better...
The only thing I can tell: it will grow...it HAS to grow...I'm still far away from liking my hair length but it's gone better.
Big hugs of empathy,
Julia
Ok,I'm going to tell you my friend's story because it is the worst ever.She is half African American and half European American.She made an appointment at a salon in downtown Chicago that normally does the hair of AA women.Her sister begged her not to.Told her "they're not used to hair like ours."My friend doesn't listen and goes to get her hair straightened.Well her sister was right.Her head was burning and as they're washing the chemicals out,her hair starts falling out.She leaves the salon and it starts pouring rain.So,there she is,in downtown Chicago in the pouring rain,her hair coming out in chunks,no hat or hood and she has to take public transportation home so her sister could say"I told you so".
When I was in college, I thought of my sister as this fabulously trendy person that I wanted to be. So I asked her to come along on my next haircut. Because I was in college and had no money, we went to one of those "am I really going there" places in the mall. The woman, who barely understood english, said, "You want bang, yeah?" My sister replied for me "Yes, I think so." and before I could get another word out, the woman had swept half my hair over my eyes and chopped it off half way down my forehead. Half my hair in thick, straight, awful bangs. The rest of my freshman year was spent with a series of bad, but at least slightly better attempts to grow it out in anything that didn't look like mop.
i went to a stylist at my sister's salon, one who everyone lauded for being SO AMAZING! i had never seen him before and i had this longish hair that was floppy and i was sick of, and because i thought he could do no wrong, i simply told him to do whatever he wanted, that i was sure i would love it. (totally my fault, i know.) so what i wound up with was the jennifer aniston do. you know, that one? and what made it worse was that this was about five years after it had peaked in popularity. blargh! the next day i went to a barber shop and had it chopped off into a super cute bob, but it took forever to grow back out again.
so yeah, i commiserate.
It'll grow !
My previously marvellous hairdresser is pregnant . I'm delighted for her , really I am .
But now , every time I go , this large-and-getting-larger bump obscures her vision more ! Last time I came out looking like someone fleeing from a chainsaw massacre .
Just as well it's nearly wooly hat weather !
It could be worse......you could have red hair, freckles and bangs cut by putting a bowl over your head! Yep, that was me!! Seriously, short hair makes your eyes look bigger!!
i have a bad haircut now too, but i'm living with it. i'm embarrassed to go outside the house every day, but i'm living with it. i had long hair, had a baby, got an ultra cute cut, and then decided this summer that it was time to grow it out. but it's so hard! i don't look cute anymore!
and every day i ask myself if i should just suck it up and go back to the salon to get my old cute short cut again. right now i look like a junior high school boy from 2 years ago... (before the justin beiber style was popular..)
do i really want a ponytail bad enough to endure months of looking like crap?
I got a bad one yesterday too. I tried to tell the "stylist" what I wanted but I don't think she was listening - or maybe she just doesn't UNDERSTAND ENGLISH!! I also told her that her scissors were dull because they were pulling my hair and she gave me some sob story about "new ones coming" and they might be in those boxes over there that they hadn't opened yet! Well, go get them - idiot! But then, I'm the idiot because I paid her. I'm going back tomorrow to see if they can fix it - as long as it isn't the same cretin who messed it up in the first place.
So I read your blog yesterday and thought it was too bad but could not come up with a story good or I mean bad enough to tell. WELL today I got my hair cut and (I guess I really need to find a stylist and actually make an appointment and KEEP it) but any how I said I wanted it 'wispy', sounds easy huh? Well I guess it isn't so easy cause I left there looking like Mr. Spock. Never really thought of his hair as wispy. So I came home and put in 'product', now it is kinda sticking up and messy but at least I don't have the Spock bangs!
Hang in there and try some 'product'. At least it is fun to play with.
It's hair it will grow out, so I wasn't picky about where I got it cut in college. Well, it's a bad sign when she puts the apron thingy around your neck and you sit down and she says no, stand up, then makes me flip my head over and she proceeds to cut my hair upside down. It took a really good stylist and razor'd layers to get it to look anywhere normal again. It all works out and there is always something cute you can do with hair. Have fun finding that thing. *hugs*
No way ...not without a picture. You get no pity from me, no corresponding story of hair'em scar'em until I see proof of the scalping you suffered. 'Cause I've been chemo-bald ---except for the strange tuft that refused to fall out--looked like a plucked ostrich I tell you.
I guess you can be glad it's not a bad tatoo
Ann in the Great White North
I have curly hair and like it long. I specifically asked the young, hip hair stylist to not take too much off. She started cutting from the top of my head and when she saw my look of horror said, "don't worry, this is just a guide". It was a guide for cutting my hair into a mushroom shape. I wore a hat for three months. Luckily my hair grows fast. I cried off and on for a week over this. I'm not over it and it has been 2+ years. Now when I go to the hair dresser I spend a lot of time letting her know how traumatic that haircut was and to not cut it short.
My last haircut was being cut very very very short. I was so freaked towards the end of the cut, I started to laugh hysterically (to stop from crying) You can see how my hairdresser thinks I'm a psycho can't you?
When I got home I noticed how grey my remaining hair was, so I put my usual medium-brown dye through it. I was on a course of antibiotics at the time, which apparently makes the dye cling to everything. So my hair, my scalp, my hands all turned jet black! So before I had medium length brown hair, now I have short spiky pitch black hair... Do you feel better now?
One last thing Lauren. You have such a beautiful face, who cares abut your hair, it'll grow back quick as a flash!
ok, so in high school i used to go to my mom's stylist, and I'm pretty sure he hated me. the worst haircut he gave me was when I asked for a stacked bob and halfway through the haircut he announced that he was giving me "dairy queen hair"! he literally cut and styled my hair to look like a dairy queen dip cone. i am not kidding.
Oh, my poor dear, I'm so sorry. I have been there many times. My hair stylist talked me into getting a bowl cut in 7th grade - like I wasn't already pitiful enough in 7th grade! I had a stylist get mad at me once because I didn't want the style she recommended, and she cut a good two inches off my already shortish hair. In my twenties, my blonde hair was dyed a greenish brown...the list goes on including a Robin Hood hairstyle. You have my sympathy, although I'm sure you still look lovely!
Wow, we all have them. My story is a bad dye job that led to a good cut. I colored my greys with the same stuff I've been using for years and it turned jet, raven black (I'm a brunette). I decided that if I was going to be severe, I may as well be daring too. The cut was great. Maybe you could use this as an opportunity to try a bold color... do blondes have more fun? what about a va-voom redhead?
pic of my really bad haircut here. laugh. then act like you don't know me because i actually go out like this...
in 8th grade...i "accidentally" got a mullet when I asked for a bob. needless to say it was beyond hideous and the week before being nominated for homecoming. obviously a scarred image??
Where did you get your hair cut so I can avoid it? My last hair cut: my genius hair stylist, pregnant and moving to TX, whom I've been loyal to for 6 years...we chatted like the old friends we are and then...done? I was confused but thought I'd figure it out when I got home. Nope. I called the salon. It had been sold and no one answered. I emailed. Nothing. I have been living with this BEAST all summer, wanting to shave my head every time I go to the gym, and somehow it turned into a worse beast! She would have fixed it for free and I don't really have the money, still, to pay someone to cut it again. Been trying to not cut it myself. Feels like my scalp catches fire as I obsess in my cubicle. You can certainly have my hair, it might make a good hat! Snip snip.
Worst haircut ever? My mother-in-law is a hair dresser. She gives me free haircuts. I thought I'd be nice and make it easy on her. I said, "I don't have anything in mind. How about you just do what you think is best." Oh man. I went home that day with a mullet. It was bad. I had a mullet. Not like in the 80s or 90s when that was the thing... this was like 2 or 3 years ago. Lesson learned? When having Momba cut my hair, we give very simple requests "chin-length, straight-across." So far, there have been no more mullets. We count everything better than the mullet as a success. :)
I have to tell you about mine even though this is late! I did it. I was desperate for a haircut (3 1/2 year old and 4 month old at home- and I think I don't have time to go get it cut professionally) so I decided to try it myself. I have cut my husband's hair so I thought I could cut mine. Um, no. I put the scissors down at one point and was laughing at the horrible mess I had created, and then I picked up the scissors and tried to fix it! My husband tried (sweet man) and then a week later I had a nice lady fix it. It was inches shorter than I wanted and ugh- not at all what I had in mind. But it was my fault! I am glad to hear your hair is better than you thought, you always make me laugh so much!
I actually found this blog after Googling bad hair cuts in a desperate attempt to find a way to fix mine... My sister is actually my stylist, but she has this habit of ignoring what I ask for and trying to make my hair a bit "cooler". I'm 23, so she thinks my long wavy blonde hair, and long side fringe look (that I love and have had forever) is "boring" and that I should be more adventurous because I'm young, so when I asked for a trim she cut all these short chunky layers and a short side fringe into my hair, which is now shoulder length at it's longest point. It looks to me like there's actual steps in my hair, and it's too short to tie it all back (which as a chef it's important that I can do). All I can do is pin it up and go for this half-up kinda look that's ok I guess, but I don't feel at all like myself.
I'm also devastated because I'd JUST finished growing it out from the last time she thought she knew better, and gave me a super styled bob, that although it looked cool, it was way too much work for me to manage and style, and again, I didn't feel like myself. I think I'm actually done with haircuts from now on!
The worst part is I just started dating this guy a few weeks ago that I really really like, and he's often remarked on how much he loves my long blonde hippy hair. I'm dreading him seeing the disaster I'm left with. I'm kind of hoping it stays cold enough for the next month or two that I can wear slouchy hats and cover up the layers, even if the dodgy fringe gets displayed.
But seriously, I've literally been crying for about an hour here, so thank you all for making me laugh and feel a bit better about my macheted look.
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